Discovering you have a kink or fetish can be both full of excitement and validity, as well as shame and doubt. You may find yourself asking these questions:
Oftentimes, kink and BDSM providers approach kink therapy from a white dominant lens that doesn’t address other systemic issues in the lifestyle. In Kink and BDSM Therapy with me, we talk about the considerations beyond the bedroom. Things like discussing if your partner has an Asian fetish and whether that changes anything about the way you play or engage. Processing gender based expectations and physical appearance-based fetishes that show up in play and when integrating into the larger community. Acknowledging racial systems of power when you are exploring the role dominance or submission plays in your day-to-day life. As a culturally affirming therapist, I add cultural processing into your sessions to unpack how your kinks may challenge identity and where it shows up relationally. I don’t see these things as a “separate topic” but rather integral to your worldview and how you approach kink.
I taught floorwork shibari workshops for around 4 years. I was the lead organizer of a TNG group during that time, teaching educational workshops on kink and running social events prior to pursuing graduate school. I’ve done workshops and talks at colleges on topics such as “the mindfuck workshop” and “kink outside cisnormativity”. I’ve been involved in the greater BDSM community for almost a decade, offering mentorship and support for new members. I’ve since taken a step back from attending any parties/dungeons out of respect for my clients. You may see me at a munch or two or teaching a workshop every once in a while, but otherwise you have no worries about ever running into me in the wild.
I’ve worked with a range of experience for clients wanting to process what Kink or BDSM can mean for them.
For Individuals:
For Couples and Poly Systems
A reminder that therapy NEVER includes sexual behavior even if we are talking about sexual topics. In creating a safe space to process Kink, we discuss what is appropriate behavior between therapist and clients and practice how you negotiate consent outside the therapy room by doing so within the therapy room.
This includes therapeutic approach. For example we talk about if you want me to make scene suggestions/brainstorm with you or not.
If this sounds like the kind of work you’re interested in. You can book a free 15-minute consultation with me at the link below and we can chat more about your needs.
Therapy can be a powerful step toward healing, growth, and self-understanding. Whether you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or simply ready to explore new parts of yourself, this is a space where your voice matters.
